AND THE TREE BLOSSOM…

Tracey Martins was just a five year old blue eyed girl with long blond hair residing with her grandpa in their country home at Duke Town, a country side in Nigeria. She is very humble, intelligent and committed but can be temperamental and scared of nothing. It was to her, a mystery, when her teacher taught her that a giant tree is but a product of a single seed. So she determined to plant a seed to see how it begets a tree. This she does with the help of her grandpa.

Two hours after planting the seed, the young girl was already anxiously waiting for the tree to surface. Noticing her anxiety, her grandpa suggested she leaves the seed for a while. Guess what? Just three days of post planting, fearless and temperamental Tracey Martins excavated the seed and took it to grandpa, accusing her teacher of being incompetent and playing hide and seek with her intellect because the seed didn’t beget a tree after all.

Her grandpa insisted that she planted same seed again, this time, rather than digging it out, should water it every morning before leaving for school and that by the time she makes it to high school, the tree must have been taller than her. So she obediently did and the tree finally grows and blossom beyond her wildest imagination.

Most people are like little Tracey. The moment they read or hear about quality relationships/marriages, they are enthused to philosophize and experiment it with immediate alacrity. Then one/two years into it, they already want out. Perhaps, because their high expectations are cut short. Base on egocentricism, intolerance, ignorance and pride, like our little Tracey Martins, most people attempt to, and/or undo a healthy relationship/marriage that would have paid off in the long run. With their mouths, they spell their doom and with their unfounded ill hearts towards each other, they make a caricature of the very life they lead and a mockery of each breath. Unfortunately for some, they never had the second chance to right the wrongs. What a poor life that is…

TAKE A CLOSER LOOK AT YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE. ARE YOU FORCING IT TO BEAR FRUITS EVEN BEFORE YOU WORK IT OUT? WHO ARE YOU BLAMING FOR THE MISFORTUNE ON YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARITAL LIFE? YOUR SPOUSE, IN-LAWS, OR FRIEND(S)? WHO DO YOU LOOK UP TO WHEN YOU ARE NOT SURE OF EVENTS? “GRANDPA”, BEER BOTTLE, COMMITTEE OF FRIENDS OR GOD?

How cluttered is your marital terrain? How unhealthy has your relationship been with your family, fiancé/fiancée, and friends? The good news is… You CAN revamp it if you so desire on the one condition that they are still alive. LIFE IS BUT A SHORT JOURNEY TO THE UNKNOWN! GO… MAKE HASTE… GO MAKE PEACE IN YOUR MARRIAGE/FAMILY. SPEND TIME AND ENERGY WATERING IT SO IT CAN BLOSSOM IN DUE SEASON. BEST WISHES.

BELIEVE MORE IN YOURSELF!

Life's a Dance

Life’s a Dance (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

As you advance in the course of your life’s pursuit, be it in your career, education, marriage, family etc, you will DEFINITELY meet four (4) sets of people.

1) Those who don’t believe in you and what you do.
2) Those who believe in what you do but not in you.
3)Those who believe in you but not in what you do and,
4)THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN YOU AND WHAT YOU DO.

But always remember that; at the end of the day, YOU ARE, AND WILL REMAIN THE ARCHITECT OF YOUR DESTINY. What you choose to believe about yourself and pursue with your life IS WHAT MATTERS MOST.

BE YOURSELF… BE AUTHENTIC!

A TIP FOR COUPLES

A couple of 14-carat gold wedding rings. Pictu...

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As a couple, no matter the degree of love and understanding, some conflicting moments are bound to pop somewhere in your marital journey. When they eventually do;

DON’T BE TEMPTED TO DISCUSS YOUR MATRIMONIAL ILLS OVER BEER BOTTLES IN THE BEER PARLOR, IT STRIPES YOU OF YOUR NOBILITY AS A MAN. DON’T BE TEMPTED TO SERMON YOUR COMMITTEE OF FRIENDS OR SEEK DIRECTION FROM THE HAIR DRESSING SALOON/MARKET. IT PORTRAYS YOU AS INCAPABLE WOMAN. BE CAREFUL HOW YOU EXPOSED YOUR FAMILY TO A THIRD PARTY IN THE NAME OF SPIRITUAL HEAD (AFTER ALL, MOST OF THE SO CALLED SPIRITUAL HEAD CAN’T HANDLE THEIRS).

YOU AND YOUR SPOUSE MUST AGREE TO ALWAYS SETTLE MATTERS ON YOUR OWN EITHER IN THE DINNING TABLE OR THE BEDROOM OR WHEREVER SUITS BEST. WHERE THIRD PARTIES MUST COME IN, LET IT BE A UNANIMOUS AGREEMENT.

PLEASE, DON’T BRING BREAK YOUR HOME IN THE GUISE OF SEEKING FOR SOLUTION. (WE ARE NOT SAYING YOU SHOULD DIE IN SILENCE) WE ARE SAYING YOU SHOULD BE CAREFUL AND HANDLE YOUR HOME WITH MATURITY…

Please share your tips with us. Regards!

A TIP FOR SINGLE PARENTS

Doing the best she can

Doing the best she can (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

There’s nobody stronger than a single parent. Obviously, all things being equal, nobody may wish to be one intentionally. But life sometimes is not fair to us all.

But being a single parent doesn’t make anyone less human, which explains why most, if not all single parents still desire to be loved and cared for like everyone else, but our society seem not to be very friendly with single parents. Finding love again always seem tedious, more so for our women.

This one tip goes specially to single parents who may still want to find a fitting partner.

SPEND TIME AND ENERGY LOVING AND CARING FOR YOUR KIDS. NOTHING IS MORE ATTRACTIVE TO OPPOSITE SEX LIKE SOMEONE THEY CAN TRUST WITH THE AFFAIRS OF THEIR KIDS. “They say never date a woman with kids, but nothing is more attractive than seeing a single mother who is in school full-time, got two or three jobs, and doing whatever it is possible so her kids can have the best”. NaQuin

Please share your tip with others. We care…

BENEFITS OF A HOME

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Do you have a home? Do you know how hard it is to make one? Looking at your environment, you’ll effortlessly find uncountable houses with different architectures, colours and even sizes. More so, in the city centres. But taking a panoramic view at the society, you’ll agree, without bating and eyelid, that the one thing on high demand is a home. We’ve been very busy building magnificent houses with no a home to call our own. Stay with me for some seconds and understand the difference between a house and a home and which is best for you.

 A house is a building/structure used for multifarious purposes such as residential, official or even for entertainment. People who converge in houses often feel themselves strangers to one another. This goes to explain the heavy exchange of blows and dominance contest in the boxing ring (an entertainment house) and a host of other acrobatics and branded inhuman treatments replicated in other houses with pseudo names like domestic violence etc.

 A HOME is a place of residence or refuge. ~Wikipedia. Home is where the heart is. It is where love abides, “Many a man who pays rent all his life owns his own home; and many a family has successfully saved for a home only to find itself at last with nothing but a house.” Bruce Barton. What’s more? Home is where we find completeness, find freedom to be ourselves. It is where our first lessons on discipline, adjustment and accommodation, rights and duties, obligations and responsibilities, spirit of fellow-feeling, love and sympathy are learnt. It is where we turn to for succor when life and the society make a mockery of our very existence and efforts.

 Won’t you rather make a home? It is very costly. More costly than any edifice on the surface of the earth but comes with unquantifiable advantage. You will have a husband, children, in-laws and a set of people you can heartily care for and protect with everything that makes you a woman. You can have special magic woman (wife) who can stroke away your fears and frustrations just by caressing your muscles and awakening the man within you. When you really understand these things and more, you will know, beyond anything else, THE JOY OF LIVING. So many benefits come with having a home as opposed to an edifice/house. Won’t you rather make a home? Think about it